If you haven’t yet experienced the dreaded temper tantrum, you will soon enough. All children, especially toddlers and teenagers, will have at least one temper tantrum in their lifetime (if you’re lucky). For parents, it can be a frustrating time but you are not without help. Here are some tips to keep it at a simmer.
What is a temper tantrum?
If you didn’t know better, you might guess that your child was having a seizure of sorts. Some scream, wail, flail, and jump around. Others may pout and stomp all over the house. However your child displays it, a temper tantrum is unmistakable.
It’s performed usually in response to the answer “no.” When kids don’t get their way, they can act out. The earliest act is often the tantrum. Through this method, they test the boundaries of their influence over their parents’ behavior. How you handle a tantrum will determine if the tantrum is effective.
How do you cool the fires of a tantrum down?
Throw your arms around them.
They won’t be expecting that. A big bear hug catches them off guard and may make them warm up to you. Then ask them what’s wrong. This encourages their honesty and a more effective solution to their problem than stomping and screaming.
Why are they throwing such a fit? Did they just come in from school and need to blow off some steam? Maybe they feel restless and sleepy? See if you can find the origin of the tantrum before jumping to conclusions.
Avoid giving in.
If you give in to their demands, then they will know that they can get anything they want by throwing a hissy fit. Whatever you do, if the answer you gave was “no” then stick with it.
Some people think this is cruel but your child may just want attention. If it’s worked in the past, they will try it again. Keep an eye on them so they don’t hurt themselves or anyone else, but don’t say a word to them. Eventually they will get tired of being ignored and stop. Just make sure to stay calm and remind yourself that the tantrum will pass.
Meet their real needs.
If your child has had a busy day, put them to bed early. Proceed with the evening routine ahead of time so they can get to bed and rest. Feed your child dinner if you suspect that they might be hungry. It’s not a crime to sit down to a meal earlier if it will help your child to calm down.
Change the subject.
Instead of giving in, find something new to talk about that might interest your child. Young ones have a short attention span and it may distract them from whatever they were fussing about.