By Jay Davidson
I was intrigued to discover that there is a
relationship between a clean, well-organized home and
the educational and financial success of the children
who grew up there. In a study done by three university
sociologists, the findings were that children completed
more schooling (13.6 years compared to 12) and earned a
higher salary ($14.70 per hour compared to $12.60) in
clean and well-organized homes than in “not very clean
to dirty” homes.
One long-term benefit of having an orderly home is that
children learn this while they are growing up and under
their parents’ influence. It’s a skill that can be
applied as they move on to their teenage years during
high school and then make the transitions to college
and, ultimately, their own homes, whether they live
alone, with friends, or with their own families.
Underlying our culture is a mentality concerning the
collection and retention of material possessions.
Because many of us either lived through or are children
of people who lived through the Great Depression, we
have been schooled in the practice of stockpiling
possessions, and, in many cases, retaining items whether
or not they are useful or necessary.
With this in mind, what are concerned parents to do?
After all, families have so much to organize, as every
member of the family has both visible and non-visible
aspects of their lives to be organized. The visible
objects may be easier to deal with, simply because they
are visible; these are clothing, work/school supplies,
hobbies, toys, and food. But that is not all! Each
member of the family also has responsibilities,
relationships both inside and outside of the home, and
limitations on their time and skills. Mix these
variables together, and you have the equivalent of a
juggling act that takes many years of practice to keep
moving smoothly.
The study, “As Ye Sweep, So Shall Ye Reap,” was written
by Jeanne Brooks-Gunn (Columbia University), Greg Duncan
(Northwestern University) and Rachel Dunifon (University
of Michigan). It was published in the May, 2001 issue of
the American Economic Review.
The first step to take when you want to get your family
organized for success is to purge what is no longer
useful.
Things that you are not using are in the way! These
items form a barrier between your family members and
their successful lives. Many children have too many
possessions crammed into their closets, drawers, and all
over their rooms. Time spent working with the family to
weed out unwanted and unneeded excess in their rooms is
productive. Your children probably have more books,
clothing, and toys than they need or want, so help them
to sort through it all.
One way to appeal to children to weed out such articles
is to explain that there are other people who need and
can use what they don’t : children who have no books of
their own, very few toys, or a limited selection of
clothing from which to choose.
There are three major benefits of this activity. First
of all, your child has a sense of contributing to
another person. Secondly, this frees up some space for
navigating more freely in his own room. Thirdly, you
teach the lesson that it is all right to get rid of
things.
Most of us are so busy with our lives that we don’t take
the time to implement this step. Make and keep an
appointment with yourselves to accomplish this task.
Perhaps you can devote the first day of a vacation to
the effort; the approach of a child’s birthday could be
a benchmark you will use; the beginning or end of a
school year is an ideal time. When you do it is not
nearly as important as that you do it!
With permission from professional organizer and author
Kathy Waddill, here are a few of the steps that she
includes in the approach she recommends in her
soon-to-be-released book, The Organizing Sourcebook:
Nine Strategies for Organizing Your Life.
1. Design the system that fits your
own life
There is not a right or wrong way to be organized in
your home. Determining how to get organized takes some
thought, though. What are the activities in which your
family members are involved? By placing the toys, games,
craft and art supplies, sports equipment, and homework
resources at or near the places where they are used, you
will save yourself from a lot of the extra effort
created by having to pick up the trails of toy parts,
game pieces, crochet hooks, sneakers, and markers that
run throughout the house.
2. Containers are key
Here’s a concept to which many people are finally
catching on: place all parts of activities into
containers. The see-through plastic variety is
particularly useful, as you and your children will be
able to see the contents before you even move the
container from its location. The proper containers are
also helpful in developing responsibility in young
children. Assign them with the task of cleaning up when
they have completed their time with the activity. It is
easy for them to see on their own if they have
accomplished the task or not: either all the parts are
in the container or they are not!
3. Use labels
Labeling is a tool with two uses for families, as labels
promote literacy as well as organization. Most important
in the process of labeling is that the children be
involved. That way, they get to use the words that are
most meaningful to them, which is an important part in
making this a system that will be useful for them. For
young children who cannot yet read, you may either draw
or cut out pictures; this is a pre-reading skill because
you teach that there is a relationship between a symbol
and its meaning.
There’s help if you need it!
If you need assistance to get organized, you’re not
alone. More than one thousand members of the National
Association of Professional Organizers (NAPO) are ready
to aid you in accomplishing your goals. Founded in 1985,
this organization has chapters and individual members
all over the United States and in several other
countries. If you need a referral to an organizer near
you, NAPO can be reached at P. O. Box 140647, Austin, TX
78714-0647, (512) 454-8626,
www.napo.net.
The New Messies Manual: The Procrastinator’s Guide to
Good Housekeeping was authored by Sandra Felton, a
professional organizer whose Messies Anonymous is a
twelve-step program with support groups in many cities
around the United States; (800) 637-7292,
www.messies.com
Julie Morgenstern’s Organizing from the Inside Out is a
best-seller with an approach that is easy to understand
and implement. How can you go wrong with Oprah’s
organizer?
The Simple Living Guide: A Sourcebook for Less Stressful, More Joyful Living
, by Janet Luhrs is a
treasure trove of ideas. Simple Living is a quarterly
newsletter; contact the publisher at 4509 Interlake Ave.
N, PMB 149, Seattle, WA 98103-6773, (206) 464-4800,
www.simpleliving.com
Simplify Your Life with Kids
, by Elaine St. James is a
book that will be useful to families that would like to
take a no-nonsense approach to paring down and getting
away from rampant commercialism.