Teach Your Child Resiliency with These Tips


Every parent wants their child to be resilient. Ask any child psychology or child development expert how valuable resiliency is, and he or she will confirm its significance.

First, let’s take a look at what being resilient means. In basic terms, being resilient means the ability to rebound or spring back to original form. Of course, we as parents want to shield and protect our children from every mishap and hurt, but this isn’t realistic.

As children mature, especially during pubescent and adolescent years, we have to take a step back and bite our lips as we painfully watch our children maneuver their way through this tough transition. If we step in and act for them, take on their battles, and defend them, we do not allow our children the freedom and the space to grow.

There are a couple of ways to teach your child how to be resilient during challenging times.

Talk It Out with Your Kids

Show your child that you know how bad they feel by being empathetic. Let them know that you are there to talk it out and also to listen. Make sure that your child knows that no one gets through middle school or high school unscathed — it’s like a rite of passage.

If your child knows that you have an empathetic ear, he or she will bounce back a lot quicker than going it alone.

Give Your Children Some Space

Make sure to give your child some space to also figure it out on his/her own. Sometimes as parents we want to fix it, make it all better, or make it go away. However, when we do this, we don’t give our child the opportunity to become resilient.

When children learn that falls, trip-ups, setbacks, and mistakes are all a part of life, it doesn’t mean that it has to be the whole of life. Learning that they can survive, people forget, and that they can laugh at themselves later on in life are all tools to help them move on. Give them space to figure it out on their own. Let them know that you’re there for them while giving them some elbow room.

Teach Your Kids How to Laugh

One of the best ways to gain resiliency is to point out to your kids that one day they will look back and have the ability to put things in perspective. Teach them that sometimes they have to chalk it up to being human and, as a human, it’s about making and learning from mistakes. Let your children know that it’s okay to laugh at themselves later on down the road. Teach them that it will get better.

One of the best ways to get your kids to laugh is to relate a story of yours when you were a young adult, and things did not go as planned. Show them that not only did you survive, but you thrived through the experience.

Point out situations where famous athletes and musicians were laughed at or scorned, and sent away to find something else to do with their lives — only to succeed above and beyond the dreams, goals, or visions that they had.

Using these tips, your children will be well on their way to building resiliency, which will carry them throughout life.